My shibboleth is loyalty. I have always struggled with loyalty from others. The dictionary defines loyal as: unswerving in alligence; faithful to a private person whom fidelity is due. I have never experienced true loyalty from anyone I do not think. I am an extremely loyal person and because of this I expect that from others, but time and time again I am let down. You would think that after being disapointed enough I would stop expecting so much from others, but that has yet to happen.
I absolutely hate when people talk to me about others then turn around and talk to that person about yet another person. I used to be friends with a girl who did this all the time and it drove me crazy. It bothered me to the point that I had to end our friendship. If she was talking to me about everyone else then she was more than likely doing the same thing to me. I want someone to be my friend all the time or none of the time. Loyalty can be a fine line to walk if you are friends with two people who do not get along. But that is really the true test of loyalty I think. You should never say anything about one to the other and they should respect your friendship with the other person enough to just not talk about them at all when you are around.
I feel the same way. It seems that there are very few true friends or anyone out there for that matter, and as much as someone walks all over you, you still expect so much from people. I would rather have a few true good people in my life than a lot of fake friends that cause drama and make you upset. A few years back one of my friends got into a fight with another and then afterwards they got mad at me when I still talked to the other even though I didn't choose sides it drove me crazy.
ReplyDeleteI agree that loyalty is one of the most important traits to look for in a friend. Without it there is no trust so there cannot be a meaningful relationship. I also do not like it when someone repeats your conversation with them to someone else. If you wanted that person to know you would have told them! I think loyalty includes respecting your privacy and not violating your wishes.
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